Mediation with border restrictions

The border restrictions that have come throughout the COVID period have required changes for many families. Some families were able to continue their usual patterns in crossing state borders but others have had long periods where they have been unable to meet. Now that the border restrictions are slowly easing, many parents are eager to resume contact across borders.

There are a number of things to consider. If it has been a long period since children have had contact with one parent, it may be a difficult adjustment. It should be expected that they have continued to develop during this time, and that their wants, needs, habits and expectations have changed. This does not mean that they should be deprived of contact with either of their parents: it means that contact should be approached sensitively so that it can be positive for everyone. Where possible, parents should work together to help children maintain their habits and routines while moving between different homes. For instance, some children may become very uncomfortable if they are suddenly without a certain toy or comfort object. Where possible, it is best to have regular contact through phone or video calls. If there is a concern about a child being distressed by seeing a parent after a break period, this is a good way to resume contact.

Each child is entitled to a meaningful relationship with both parents, unless this would create a risk to their wellbeing. At Blackboard Mediation, we are an online service, helping us provide a convenient service over long distances. We are enjoying guiding families towards greater contact after such a difficult period, and for some, a very long time.

If you would like any information on how mediation can work in your situation, please do not hesitate to contact our office for a free fifteen minute phone consultation.